Have you often wondered “will meditation help me?”.
Well, let me break it down for you like this. Life before meditation, and quite frankly, I was completely crazy. From struggling with insomnia to unleashing seismic fits of rage on my partner, I felt like a terrible parent and human being wound like a tight coil ready to spring at any time. You name the inner demon, I was struggling with it.
I was on the road to 40 and beginning not to like myself very much. I had become so grossly reactionary to pretty much everything and especially when life wasn’t going according to plan – which let’s face it can feel like 99% of the time. I wondered “will meditation help me?”. I desperately hoped the answer would be yes.
I needed to mentally unplug and get away from it all, and six years ago booked myself onto a half day meditation workshop with Simon Hoten for beginners where I learnt the basics of meditation, how to meditate using a candle, moving meditation and more. I had always been nervous about the idea of meditation. Could I actually sit still and meditate when I couldn’t even handle a Savasana at the end of a yoga class without wanting to have a massive twitching fit? And even if I managed to do that, when on earth would I ever fit meditation into my daily life?
I left the workshop feeling deeply and sublimely relaxed. The best takeaway? The revelation that even just three minutes of meditation could help me. And armed with that knowledge that meditation didn’t require a large chunk of my time, I tentatively started my meditation practice, just before light’s out every evening.
Six years later, it’s still going strong. Sometimes it’s three minutes – sometimes it’s 15 minutes. Hey I’m not counting! But either way I am no longer asking “will meditation help me” because I know the answer is a resounding yes.
Will meditation help me? Here are the ways it has done good in my life
Meditation has so far improved my life by:
- Easing my anxiety
- Improving my overall mental health
- Helping me sleep
- Making me less reactionary
- Increasing my self-awareness and self-control
- Making me feel overall happier and more confident
- Enhancing my productivity, creativity and efficiency
But don’t just take my word for it. Just google “How meditation changed my life” and you will find reams of pages dedicated to people saying the same. This – my friends – is no coincidence. Because meditation works.
Will meditation help you find your right mind?
Recently I discovered Finding my Right Mind: One Woman’s Experiment to put Meditation To The Test. The book follows Vanessa Potter’s journey – where one day she woke up to find herself blind and paralyzed. How absolutely petrifying! She was stunned to discover that it was meditating, not drugs, that saved her mind.
Convinced she had more to learn, she embarked on her own consciousness road trip, exploring the major schools of meditation, along with hypnotherapy and psychedelics. In order to objectively record her journey, Cambridge neuroscientists measured her brain activity, with their observations and results featured within the book. It’s a fantastic whistle-stop your of the different types of meditation out there, and it provides an unusually voyeuristic glimpse into how powerful meditating can be. So if you’re not yet convinced that meditation can help you find your right mind – or even how on earth it can – then I would suggest you read this book!
I loved how perfectly she summed up the impact meditation can have on your life in her conclusion:
“It’s taken effort and time, but meditating doesn’t have to be a straight jacket; ironically, it’s been freeing. I’ve learned to be responsible for myself – what I think, feel and do is up to me….I had to acknowledge the different versions of myself. The nice, patient self along with the grumpy, worried-about-my-kids self. Neither is better or worse.”
She continues, “Meditation doesn’t have an on-off switch. It’s not as simple as doing it or not doing it. Sitting still is only part of it. What happens after that then, twenty or thirty minutes is just as important.” It’s that last part that rings so true for me – it’s about how meditation eventually informs everything that you do in your life, and makes it better.
Help! I can’t sit still and quieten my thoughts for love nor money
I hear you! I also have a brain that behaves like it has been soaked in amphetamines for a week straight plus a back that screams “I hate you!” most of the time. But yet still, I am living proof that it is possible. If you are in the same camp, then you will want to know about Sitting Comfortably by Swami Saradananda – an internationally renowned yoga and meditation teacher who has inspired thousands of people to practise.
It is full of tips for those who are prone to getting distracted, finding sitting painful, lack of time and self-discipline. Read: everybody. Once you have read this there will be no more excuses. You will stop wondering hmmmm will meditation help me and dive in and finally find out for yourselves.
Swami notes, “The mind likes constant stimulation, so when you try to sit quietly during meditation, without giving your mind external entertainment, it may come up with resistance and excuses not to continue. Rather than viewing these as setbacks, it is useful to view them positively, as obstacles to be overcome and lessons to learn from. Below are some common mental and physical challenges of meditation and how to overcome them.”
Be in the moment
Memories of the past and daydreams of possible futures can often distract the mind. If these come up while you are trying to meditate, just bring your mind back to your point of focus – whether it is your breath, a mantra, a visualization, or whatever other technique you have chosen to use.
Avoid fault-finding and replaying thoughts
Try not to review the shortcomings of other people when you are sitting for meditation and also be careful not to get caught up in self-criticism. If you find your mind re-processing the events of the day during meditation, remind yourself to come back to your point of focus, whatever that may be.
You may uncover hidden fears during meditation that have been lurking within your subconscious mind. These can manifest in many forms: fear of death, disease, solitude, criticism, or even just facing yourself. All fear stands in the way of meditative progress, so develop the habit of observing them with detachment. You will find that many will dissipate of their own accord if, instead of allowing yourself to get caught up with them, you simply return your attention to your chosen point of meditation focus.
Avoid muscle cramps
You could take a walk before sitting to prevent cramps. Make sure that you are getting enough potassium in your diet – and maintaining a healthy potassium-magnesium-calcium balance. Consider eating more bananas, dried apricots, prunes and other fruits.
Sometimes you may feel that your body is whirling or moving in a spiral motion as you sit in meditation. This tends to be more common if you meditate with your eyes closed. If this happens, open your eyes for a moment to reorient yourself and then close them and restart your meditation practice.
Exercise for optimal energy
Doing some form of exercise prior to meditating – whether stretches, yoga poses, breathing exercises or even just going for a brisk walk – can help to energize you for it.
So if you still think that meditation is just sitting around and doing nothing then think again! Still wondering “will meditation help me”? Let’s put it this way – I would be willing to put my house on the line and answer your question with “yes it will!”. Well, go on then and give it a try. After all, you’ve got nothing to lose, apart from all those bad habits that meditation can help you get rid of :).
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21 thoughts on “Will meditation help me? Here’s why you need meditation in your life”
I haven’t been into meditation but I won’t mind giving it a shot with all these benefits
Me too Louisa, let us know how you get on. I’m not sure I can sit still for more than 5 minutes!
Hey Louisa, I would definitely recommend giving it a shot because there are just so many benefits!
I largely just do breathing techniques to calm my chaotic brain. It can be considered meditation, but not quite the full experience.
Hety Kita, I think they are very close allies as breathing is such an important part of meditation and actually breathwork can be so powerful as a tool on its own.
I use meditation to help me sleep and it works beautifully, even for me with a racing mind.
Yes I completely agree! I actually meditate last thing before I turn out the light and I find it really helps me to get into that sleep state which I used to find so hard to achieve before meditating.
I have read about the benefits of meditation. I am planning to start sometime soon. This pandemic, the lockdown, the restrictions has given me nothing but anxiety.
Hey Eileen, I hear you on this! The pandemic left me in a bad place mentally too and meditation has really helped with that so I would highly recommend starting – just something small like 3 or 5 minutes can be hugely beneficial to begin with.
I agree to all your points, that’s why I always find time to do meditation.
Hey Richelle, that is great to hear! So pleased to hear you also find the time to meditate.
Meditation really helps me a lot most especially during my darkness days.
Oh that darkness! Yes it can be a bit scary on those dark days Gervin and meditation really helps with those especially.
I have an app on my watch that I use from time to time when I feel really anxious. It does help
Hey Heather, yes! There are some really great apps out there including Headspace and Daily Calm.
I could totally use meditation in my life. I am very stressed and find it difficult to relax.
Hey Mary, sounds like it would be massively beneficial for you. I’ve also found it has made me a much better parent less likely to loose my s***!
I am so glad that meditation helped you a lot! Maybe I should try it too!
Hey Catalina, It’s one of the best things I have ever incorporated in my life – it doesn’t have to be a big deal…I would highly recommend it!
Thank you for the recommendations too! Meditation is something I need to start practicing. Love the books you suggested.
I would definitely recommend both the books and meditation Erica!