When Her Hormones Change, So Does Your World: Why Every Man in His 40s or 50s Needs This Book

If you’re a man in your 40s or 50s, chances are life already feels like a juggling act — work, family, bills, parents, and the quiet question: is this it?

Now add one more unexpected twist: your partner’s menopause.

Nobody warns you that her hot flushes can turn into cold silences. Or that mood swings can morph into distance you can’t quite name. Suddenly, the relationship that used to run on easy banter feels like you’re speaking different languages.

Most men don’t talk about this.
That’s why Men on Menopause: Her Change, Your Story exists.


The Hidden Half of the Story

When author Daren Windsor (MSc Psychology) started interviewing men for his master’s research, he expected awkward laughs and polite shrugs. What he found instead was raw honesty — men talking about loneliness, confusion, and emotional shutdown during their partner’s menopause.

They weren’t weak or clueless. They were just unprepared.
While women have books, podcasts and Facebook groups galore, men are often left to figure it out solo — quietly breaking down behind the “I’m fine” mask.

This book lifts that silence.

Built from real interviews and grounded psychology (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Stoicism, Positive Psychology), Men on Menopause maps what actually happens when life, hormones, and identity all collide at once.


What It’s Really About

Forget the “self-help for men” cliché.
This is a field manual for emotional survival.

Inside, you’ll find:

  • Real voices. Men aged 40–65 sharing what it actually feels like to watch their partner change — and themselves along with her.

  • Practical tools. Simple frameworks like The Choice Point and Matrix of Tension that help you stay calm and connected when everything feels off-balance.

  • Psychological insight without the fluff. No therapy-speak. Just grounded, no-BS guidance from a bloke who’s lived it and studied it.

  • Permission to be human. Because struggling doesn’t mean failing — it means you care.


Who It’s For

This book isn’t only for men in relationships. It’s for:

  • Partners trying to understand what the hell happened to the closeness they once had.

  • Divorced men who want to make sense of what went wrong.

  • Women who want to understand the quiet storm happening beside them.

  • Friends, sons, and colleagues who’ve seen a good man withdraw and want to help him find his footing again.


Why It Matters

Menopause isn’t just a biological event — it’s a relationship event.
And when it hits at the same time as career stress, ageing parents, and midlife doubts, even strong men can lose their bearings.

This book doesn’t promise easy fixes. It offers something more valuable: language, perspective, and tools to help you navigate the storm without losing yourself — or the woman you love.

As one reader put it:

“It’s like someone finally said out loud what every man feels but doesn’t know how to express.”


The Bigger Picture

Men on Menopause is part of a growing movement: Men On Masculinity— a community built around honesty, values, and emotional agility.
If you’ve ever felt you had to keep it all together while quietly falling apart, this is your corner of the internet.

👉 Visit MenOnMasculinity.com for free tools, reflection guides, and community support.

And if you’re ready for the book that started it all, you can grab Men on Menopause: Her Change, Your Story on Amazon (also available on Amazon UK, CA, AU).


Final Thought

Midlife isn’t a crisis.
It’s a crossroad.

And while menopause might not be your body’s battle, it is part of your story.
You can ignore it and drift — or face it and grow.

This book shows you how.

Also see-

5 Ways to Manage Menopause Without HRT

Will The Menopause Ruin Your Life?